My Partner’s Perspective

Hi, I’m Jess’ partner, and this is ‘my perspective‘. I intend to add to this page throughout the upcoming days. I’m juggling a lot at the moment and getting my message out there isn’t my first priority.

I think it’s important for anyone reading through this website to know my perspective (how things are for me and the impact this has had).

I fully support Jess’ decision to speak out about Moorview, and after having spoken to some of the local residents, I feel that she’s doing the care industry a service by doing so. I believe that Moorview should be held accountable for what they have done to my partner.

For years I have struggled to provide Jess with the physical and, to some extent, psychological support she requires. For all the family members and partners of loved ones that require additional support; you understand the difficulties involved. Often it’s the person providing care that actually suffers greater than the person they are supporting. I’m aware that this isn’t always the case, and I’m not trying to take anything away from the people that struggle with needing to rely on others to help them.

When Moorview first entered our lives it was a massive relief to me. I say ‘our lives’ because even though Jess was the one getting support I knew that her getting help would in turn help me also.

For privacy reasons I can’t mention the staff members name (there would later be more than one person actively involved with the hands-on care). I wish I could because I have so much respect for her; she’s so kind and caring and for the first time in 8+ years I can openly and honestly say that I trust her. She knows who she is, and I suspect that everyone from the ‘Moorview Care Family‘ know who I’m writing about. She was a breath of fresh air in what was, by that point, a difficult time for us both. I think I’ll refer to her as ‘G‘, just so that there’s no confusion when referring to ‘she’ (and no, that isn’t the initial of her forename).

After a while the second member of support staff was introduced and things were great. I’ll refer to the second member of staff as ‘C‘ (again, this isn’t the first letter of their forename). Finally I could leave the house and not have to worry about Jess. Up until that point, with other care companies, I couldn’t leave the house during the care calls. I had to be there in case communication ‘broke down’. For the most part I believe a lack of training and/or understanding of someone on the autistic spectrum was the reason for this. I guess I’ll never know, however what I do know is that ‘G‘ and ‘C‘ made me feel comfortable with being able to go out of the house while they were supporting Jess.

So, up to this point, we have ‘G‘, ‘C‘, and ‘D‘. ‘D‘ being the Cluster Manager. It took 8 or so years to find 3 really decent, honest, caring people. All three are/were an asset to Moorview.

Stay tuned for part two, coming soon…